So, your relationship ends, you follow it up with a few days of carbs, tears and the infamous 'break up playlist'...and now you want to risk repeating it all; you want your ex back, the person that just ended the relationship, caused you to eat your entire body weight in Ben & Jerry's and spend your savings on boxes of Kleenex. Then, when you realise how much of a wasteman he was, you're up for going out and finding someone else. You think to yourself, "I'm going to find the one, no problem, it'll happen. I'll walk into a cafe, our eyes will meet over the crowded room, Celine Deon will start playing through the speakers and we'll live happily ever after"...okay, hm, NO.
Why do you need a man? Take time out; be you, travel, find a hobby that you can be passionate about. A woman who knows what she wants and how to get it will either intimidate or inspire a man; you want one that feels inspired. Don't go out and look for the one, it won't happen! If you get into the mind set of 'I need a man, I need to find one', not only will you miss opportunities elsewhere, but you'll scare most possibilities away!
Women are pressured by society to be perfect. The perfect partner, daughter, friend...what about you and what you want? Focus on improving YOUR life rather than everyone else's, be a little selfish once in a while, otherwise you won't get anywhere! It's okay to live your own life, its okay to make your own mistakes. One day you'll have a family of your own, and that will be your priority, and rightly so. But until then, LIVE YOUR LIFE. Living by the rules and expectations of others is unfair, unrealistic and EXHAUSTING!
I'm not saying walk around firing death stares at everyone, or crap on everyone who's in a good mood when you're not, all I'm saying is do what makes you happy, just don't begin doing things which you know will hurt people. You'll be no good to anyone if you don't do you now, and then you're in a relationship, you have a family, and you're resentful. Get it out of your system now or you'll just feel stuck and unhappy later on. Until you do that, society will just have to suck it!
Women are pressured by society to be perfect. The perfect partner, daughter, friend...what about you and what you want? Focus on improving YOUR life rather than everyone else's, be a little selfish once in a while, otherwise you won't get anywhere! It's okay to live your own life, its okay to make your own mistakes. One day you'll have a family of your own, and that will be your priority, and rightly so. But until then, LIVE YOUR LIFE. Living by the rules and expectations of others is unfair, unrealistic and EXHAUSTING!
I'm not saying walk around firing death stares at everyone, or crap on everyone who's in a good mood when you're not, all I'm saying is do what makes you happy, just don't begin doing things which you know will hurt people. You'll be no good to anyone if you don't do you now, and then you're in a relationship, you have a family, and you're resentful. Get it out of your system now or you'll just feel stuck and unhappy later on. Until you do that, society will just have to suck it!
I can't stress enough how much you need to know who you are before you can be in a happy relationship. I think it should be enough to want someone; isn't it nice if your someone's choice rather than necessity? If you know who you are, you know who you want.
Stop searching and you will find!
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